What I want to say about pain and trauma
I was just listening to a podcast by Dr Aseem Malhorta – so interesting
Pharmaceutical medicine is the 3rd biggest killer, why does the body experience pain? Through trauma
Pain is masked with drink, sugar, comfort eating and drugs
Like when someone has a hard day so they have lots of wine etc
But why? I haven’t drunk for a long time or smoked and myself still have a battle with sugar chocolate etc but obesity through comfort eating is so damaging
But why mask pain? Sit through it – ride it
When we start to process pain, sadness, grief – it can be very empowering to sit with those emotions and certainly to meditate and release through creativity- talking therapy- art therapy I did all of these over my 7 year transition
When the mind starts to process and release trauma it can be a very rocky time – I was in survival mode and emotionally blank for many years and when I started to release it was very sad
I hadn’t cried for many many years and there have now been many times that I sobbed for days and now I can cry just on reflection but this isn’t weakness it’s release and very lovely to not have it held within – as a society when people cry or get angry it is seen as such a negative- people often saying you need to see a counsellor etc but sometimes people just want a good release or dance like crazy or go and shout at the sky but again the societal mindset of control and conforming such behaviour can be so oppressed – which is part of the problem
The trouble is the world is going to have so much trauma to work through from everything that is happening now
People often think that the mindset of depression is forever that they are never going to feel any different whereas if they can just sit with what they are going through or as my aunt used to say ‘ride it’
I just get heartbroken when people take their lives and don’t realise that there is a tomorrow
3 of my uncles committed suicide and it leaves such a sadness for the people behind, three men all who found it so difficult to discuss their feelings and that age old taboo that boys don’t cry
My heart goes out to you if you are in pain and if you’re not please be in gratitude and help someone that is struggling and suffering
Blessings
Alison Cecelia Bramwell
University at 54 